Date: 2017-11-15 14:07
Also, I have another issue with only women just seeing men as "wallets" and "protectors". Men also stick up for their male friends in physical altercations. Men also help each other financially, etc. So why is it suddenly when the Y chromosome is not there that this has to come with an expectation of sex as payment instead of mutual support?
It s one thing to claim that opposite genders can t be friends, but surely he must have realized what that would mean to me It s just like in the above video. Obviously when a man says to a woman that men and women can t be friends, she s going to respond by saying that she does have male friends. And the response to that is always well, they re not really your friends. As a woman, you re being told that people you trust and love platonically are really just lusting after you or hanging out with you due to obligation to a friend (our boyfriend).
Unfortunately, nobody "takes" your spouse "away". especially another woman. Men are notorious for playing on another woman until they break them down. If they are unhappy in their own situations, the formula for an affair is there. It takes two. Affairs are part of human nature especially when ones needs are being ignored. Not all cheaters are serial or evil. They are lonely people who don't want to hurt their spouses even though their spouses have hurt them by alienation of affection or worse. Appreciate this article for breaking down the different aspects.
I know for myself personally, I have difficulty being just friends with women I m attracted to. Ironically, since what attracts me in friends is also what attracts me in women, women I m attracted to are who I usually seek out to be friends with. =P
(For similar reasons, although it's a bit of a tangent, I completely disagree with the other poster who contended that "Exes can't be friends." I could offer plenty of counter-examples.)
As a woman, I guess I am more unusual in that I was the unfaithful one. I had a very long term affair (more than 65 years) with a married man, and I think it kept both of us married to our spouses, in that we had an escape valve from our own unhappy marriages. Neither of us wanted to get divorced because we were very invested in our families. We would periodically break it off to try to work on our own marriages, but inevitably got back together, probably just out of inertia.
We love the idea that there 8767 s some sort of impossible wall between men and women and ascribe all sorts of motivations to it that men only are friends with women because they want to sleep with them or that women know that their male friends want them and string them along because they enjoy the ego boost or because they get their jollies over the power they wield.
This reminds me of that movie He s Just Not That Into You, or any crappy rom-com with a bunch of dolts going on about some unwritten arbitrary rules when it comes to dating, and they spend the whole movie trying to be that one special exception .or the FLUKE, when you get right down to it.
There s not a stated methodology. It s a video with a bunch of cuts. There s no way of knowing how people were selected, whether any responses were left out of the YouTube video, or even in most cases what question was asked.
I couldn't agree more Lily. Sounds so fickle doesn't it? I have seen so much carnage come out of people who need an ego boost, chosse to act like ferrels instead of people with integrity, especially around middle age. They are just people who are cowards.
You said it all Lily and I'm glad you did. Why do articles like this keep carrying on? It's time to read about the real look-in at this subject including the fallouts.